When I focus on the list of things that are wrong with my life, and I've spent years in that place, my life is awful, I feel defeated, angry, powerless.
Some days are neutral. I don't make an awful list or a gratitude list. I can go on like that for a few days, but eventually, the non-list slips into the awful list.
It's the days I start with a gratitude list that my view of my life shifts into richness.
Upon waking, I take time to acknowledge all the gifts of my life. A warm bed, a roof over head, coffee, cream, a wonderful man who is making the coffee as I dream, a home of our own, slow mornings, health, fitness, family, and friends. A job I enjoy, work and projects that fill me, time to give back to my community, time to garden, places to run, climb, bike, hike, swim, ski, or simply walk and revel in the outdoors.
Throughout my day, I think about the richness of my life. If things are going badly, I can start my day over by recognizing what I do have. Part of what I have is a lifetime of experience getting through tough times.
Environment matters, sometimes I'm dealt a crap hand, there's a lot in my life I can't control, so I change what I can. I focus on how I'm Having a Rich Life.